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Escaping to the country…or not?

There is quite a joke in our house at the moment regarding one of my favourite television programmes. I don't watch a lot of tv during the day and when Zach is at nursery, the tv is off all day. That is until 3pm when Escape to the Country comes on. I love it and the joke is that Zach knows I love it and regularly refers to it in conversation. My mum loves it too and when she is here, we watch it together oooing and ahhing over the rolling hills, the acre wide gardens and the big country farmhouses with gorgeous Aga filled kitchens, grand hallways and free standing bathtubs. It is the stuff of dreams – the stuff of my dreams. 

What has become of this however, is that I have spent a lot of time on Rightmove looking for country properties. After sending them over to the other half, he has then been on Rightmove looking at country properties! We have had some serious conversations about moving to the country when we see just the kind of house that we could be living in, the kind that I dream of and the kind that I would just love to be bringing my boys up in. 

So what is the problem you ask?

Well, the main answer is that he still needs to be able to commute into London and with the journey times looking at around 2 hours each way and the cost being around 600-700 a month – it is just not feasible. If we did it, he would never see the boys in the week and that for him is simply a no. Even though he only sees them for a short time in the morning and evening, he is home when they wake up and home for bedtime most nights and I wouldn't want that to change either. 

And so the reality of the situation (despite him still sending me houses through via email), is that we will stay put where we are. And really, that isn't such a bad thing. 

Nobody wants us to move anyway. Our whole family live pretty nearby. My mum is 20 minutes down the road, my sister, half an hour. The other half's parents are about 40 minutes away and his brother about half an hour. In reality it would be blooming stupid to move away from that support network. It would be stupid to move the boys away from their whole family at such a young age. When grandparents, aunties, uncles and cousins are such an important part of their lives.

Yes, we could be living in a lovely detached four bedroom house instead of our terraced two bedroom one but really, we are already in the countryside. We are just so close to London, so close the M25 and all of the busy roads that surround it, that it's easy to forget what we have on our doorstep. It's particularly easy to forget in the winter, when we spend more time indoors, that we do have rolling countryside within easy reach. 

With Spring arriving this past week, we have been able to enjoy what we have. Able to remind ourselves that we do live in the countryside. We just have the bonus of a small shopping centre across the road, a little Tesco's round the corner. The bonus of being surrounded by schools, having two train stations that take us pretty quickly into London. The bonus of being surrounded by absolutely awesome things that the boys will be able to enjoy as they get older, whether that be jumping on a train to a gig or kayaking down the nearby canal. 

What we have is beautiful, easily accessible and overall, absolutely perfect for us at this time of our lives. I know that people move away from their families all of the time. People relocate jobs. People change their lives. I know it's do-able and maybe one day in the future we will do that. But for now, we'll put that dream of the big house in the country on hold and enjoy what we have got. I mean really, I can't actually complain about having all of this within walking distance! 

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  • Reply Caro | The Twinkle Diaries

    NO!!! Come and move up here, nearer to me!!!! You're still an hour from London on the train!! I'd love you to move closer — you can come and sit by my AGA and have a cuppa with me 😉 PS — I love Escape To The Country too!!! I'm sure that's the reason we moved in the first place!!! LOL!!! xxx

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    March 8, 2017 at 10:25 am
    • Reply Mummascribbles

      Hahaha honestly I can’t tell you how much we would love to! Only problem is, anywhere that is only an hour commute into London is out of our house price budget!! Would so love to be able to have a cuppa with you! xxx

      March 8, 2017 at 12:19 pm
  • Reply Hannah Budding Smiles

    I was going to say come and live near me, 50 minutes to Kings Cross! Hehe But I know what you mean, I love having my family close by and it really does look like a lovely area around you xx

    March 10, 2017 at 8:34 pm
  • Reply RachelSwirl

    As the good old saying goes "the grass isn't always greener on the other side"… 

    March 13, 2017 at 10:17 am
  • Reply Caroline (Becoming a SAHM)

    Love this post. We dream about life in the countryside too.. But it won't ever happen. Because like you we have family close by who we wouldn't want to move away from, and as a teenager I had friends who lived in villages who were a bit isolated and couldn't get anywhere without mum and dad driving them all the time and I don't want to do that to the kids. Plus like you we have so much loveliness on our doorstep that there isn't any need anyway in truth! Xx #twinklytuesday 

    March 14, 2017 at 8:06 am
  • Reply Jody at Six Little Hearts

    Lol! I am in Melbourne, Australia and I love watching this show!! It looks stunning where you are already however. Let's do a house-swap!

    March 14, 2017 at 8:13 am
  • Reply Briony

    It's nice to dream isn't it. Uprooting your whole life is a bit different though. We're properly in the country here and I love it but it would be nice to have a village shop so least. On the other hand I'll be popping to London on Friday and that will be am hour drive to Epping then an hour on the tube, it's a bit far, but doable, just not everyday! #twinklytuesday

    March 14, 2017 at 8:46 am
  • Reply Helen

    So much beauty all around you already! We live in the countyside and it has its positives and negatives. I love the space, but having to drive pretty much everywhere is a bit of a pain. #TwinklyTuesday

     

    Helen x

    March 14, 2017 at 8:49 am
  • Reply Becki Parsons

    I think I could only handle the countryside if there was a town nearby – I grew up in Birmingham, which is one of the greenest cities in the world and is surrounded by beautiful countryside, but I couldn't handle being out in the sticks. My grandparents used to live in an isolated little village, which was lovely for visits, but a nightmare if you needed to a do a big shop! #twinklytuesday

    March 14, 2017 at 8:50 am
  • Reply Kiri

    Sounds like you have the best of both worlds. I live in Cumbria so I get the benefit of being right on the doorstep of the lake district, but then I'm a long way from any major cities! #Twinklytuesday 

    March 14, 2017 at 8:57 am
  • Reply Left Back

    We'be just done this. But partly as both sets of parents live nearby now as we had no support in London. 

    March 14, 2017 at 9:36 am
  • Reply Busy Working Mummy

    I live 20 miles from Nottingham out by Sherwood Forest and feel like we have a good balance despite not having a family network within 200 miles of us. You look like you are in a great location that fits with your plans at the moment so enjoy! Dont fix what isnt broken as they say 🙂 #twinklytuesday

    March 14, 2017 at 9:51 am
  • Reply MomOfTwoLittleGirls

    As someone who has moved a lot, take it from me, if you don't HAVE to move, don't. I have NO suport network and it is so very hard. My kids and parents really miss out massively on not seeing each other. I haven't seen my parents since September last year, and whilst skype is better than nothing, it can't babysit for you, it can't hug you, and it can't pop round for sunday roasts. 

    #twinklytuesday

    March 14, 2017 at 11:38 am
  • Reply kristin mccarthy

    Looks like a damn near perfect place to be if you ask me!

     

    #twinklytues

    March 14, 2017 at 12:47 pm
  • Reply Tubbs

    I love Escape to the Country and Homes Under The Hammer!  I love seeing all the places I could live.  If I wanted too and had the money.  Happy browsing!

    March 14, 2017 at 1:28 pm
  • Reply Sarah

    Aww it does look like an area you live though! And it is in the country! I live in the same sort of country. May not be as picturesque as the TV programmes, but I love it!

    March 14, 2017 at 1:36 pm
  • Reply Sarah - Arthurwears

    I totally get this, I am a massive 'better home' dreamer via rightmove. We live in Ilkley which is a lovely place and full of moors and scenery but with a 30 min train ride into Leeds and Bradford for work. It is SO expensive though and we could get so much for our money elsewhere.  There are some amazing houses up in the more scenic areas of ilkley but you'd need millions to buy them…I'll just have to work a bit harder for a bit longer..#twinklytuesay

    March 14, 2017 at 3:49 pm
  • Reply Sinead (shinnersandthebrood.com)

    Totally see where you're coming from. There's always a trade-off. I can't watch those programmes though – they make me want to put my house on the market – dangerous! lol… #TwinklyTuesday

    March 14, 2017 at 4:17 pm
  • Reply Louise (Little Hearts, Big Love)

    I have to admit I dream of moving to the country too but there's too many other factors to consider that at the moment it wouldn't be the right decision for us. I love your photos of all the various views near where you live – there is such beautiful countryside surrounding you already and it is useful to live within easy commuting distance of London (even if you don't get so much for your money house-wise). Maybe one day your dream will become reality but for now it looks like you live in a lovely area, with a fabulous support network and that's definitely something worth having. #twinklytuesday

    March 14, 2017 at 4:57 pm
  • Reply Muffin top mummy

    I know exactly what you mean – but you're right, it looks like you are pretty well set-up already. You never know what the future holds though! So keep on dreaming 🙂 #twinklytuesday

    March 14, 2017 at 5:30 pm
  • Reply Italian Belly

    You make a good case for staying where you are: support from the family, friends, proximity to London and the countryside. You kind of have the best of both worlds. #twinklytuesday

    March 14, 2017 at 7:36 pm
  • Reply Harry's Honest Mummy

    The photos look great so why give it up indeed.  I am lucky enough to live on the edge of Snowdonia National Park but do you know what – I hardly ever go.  Shocking.  I guess life is just busy wherever you live so you never really get round to it.  At least now when you do go the country side you enjoy it as it is a day out where you can escape the pressures of everyday life  #twinklytuesday

    March 14, 2017 at 8:07 pm
  • Reply Coombe Mill

    We live in a gorgeous countryside setting, but it isn't all eacape to the country magic. It is 1/2 hour drive each way to school, to after school clubs, to get a pint of milk! It was idyllic for my kids growing up but now as teens they just want us to live in town and picking them up from parties in the early hours with a long drive is no fun! Sounds like you have the best of both worlds #TwinklyTuesday 

    March 14, 2017 at 8:19 pm
  • Reply The Allergy Mum

    You are so lucky to have all that on your doorstep, but even more so the family nearby. That's the stuff memories are made of. #twinklytuesday 

    March 14, 2017 at 9:45 pm
  • Reply five little doves

    It looks like you live in a lovely area! We live in the country and as much as I love our trips to big cities, Im definitely a country girl at heart. I love watching that programme though, I always end up on Right move! #twinklytuesday

    March 14, 2017 at 10:13 pm
  • Reply Rice Cakes and Raisins

    It's so lovely to see that you are finding the beauty in where you live too. There are always things to explore even if it's just a little local park 🙂 #TwinklyTuesday

    March 15, 2017 at 2:22 pm
  • Reply Jaki

    Ah the country is great but sometimes it can be a bit isolating. I think there's pros and cons to both. Perhaps it's something you can look at doing later on in life. #twinklytuesday

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    March 15, 2017 at 5:03 pm
  • Reply Amy & Tots

    I too would love to move to the country, getting out of the city is a big one for me but I know it just isn't possible. #TwinklyTuesday

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    March 15, 2017 at 5:18 pm
  • Reply Nichole Goodland

    I have also looked on rightmove, just to see if there is a dream house out there and to also get some ideas of possibly doing up our house. My husband has to commute to London and it really is draining both physically and financially, so looking around makes me feel a little better. 

    🙂

    #twinklytuesday

    March 15, 2017 at 8:08 pm
  • Reply Mrs Mummy Harris

    we would both love to move to cornwall but due to hubbys family being so small and close (Ben made the 13th family member, also including me) and due to his mums ill health he wont move anywhere that far! But I totally get you with the commute issue. just looking at braintree where its so much cheaper makes travel to london extortionate! maybe one day! for now it will remain a holiday destination for us! #twinklytuesday

    March 16, 2017 at 9:36 pm
  • Reply Crummy Mummy

    I prefer to be more in the thick of it than the country – we're in East Sussex with a good commute to London but also by the sea, so the best of both worlds #twinklytuesday

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    March 18, 2017 at 1:51 pm
  • Reply Susie at This Is Me Now

    Oh I couldn't face a 2 hour commute either! That's insane! It looks like you have some lovely places nearby anyway. We're in the Norfolk countryside and I love it, but I equally love visiting London. xx #TwinklyTuesday

    March 18, 2017 at 2:31 pm
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