Napping in the pram – is it really so bad?

You may or may not know that since Oscar was three months old, we have had issues with his sleep. They are not by any means the worst sleep issues in the world but getting him to nap for longer than half an hour was always an issue. Getting him to sleep in his cot in the evenings was another issue. And getting him to sleep in his cot throughout the night is an ongoing issue.

Some evenings, he doesn’t wake up until we disturb him going to bed. Some evenings he wakes up once. Sometimes four times. No evening is the same.

The last few days he has been getting better at spending some of the nighttime in his cot but ultimately still ending up sleeping next to me. I don’t have the biggest issue with this, other than sometimes I wake up and my body takes a while to move because I’ve been sleeping at a funny angle.

All of the above, we are dealing with. I could leave him to cry it out and go cold turkey on the night feeds and getting into our bed, but I won’t. That is simply not for me. Everything is very slowly progressing and I shall keep going as we are. I have a very happy little Oscar and I don’t want him to be an unhappy one.

One of the things that has been a bit of a battle, as I mentioned above, is the daytime naps. When he had three naps a day, he would have this little internal alarm in him that went off after half an hour. That is literally all he needed. Sometimes it wasn’t even that long but a lot of the time you could set your watch by him!

Then he dropped down to two naps a day and they were completely inconsistent. Sometimes he would fall asleep on the school run and he would only sleep for half an hour and other times it would be two hours. He would then have another nap in the afternoon and quite often, he would wake to soon from that and end up breastfeeding back to sleep on me on the sofa. And this wasn’t really ideal when I was trying to cut out the daytime breastfeeds.

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Then, and this is only very recently, he has been showing signs that he only needs one nap a day. And it needs to be a big one! If he has an afternoon nap, he ends up struggling to go to sleep in the evening. He no longer falls asleep on the school run (ok once last week he did when he had woken up pretty early but it’s a lot rarer now), and there is no more of me walking round the block instead of heading straight home. Instead, morning time is play time (and helping to eat mummy’s breakfast time). And we are finding a pretty good routine.

We get home from school at about 9am, I make myself some toast and then we spend the morning playing. Then he has a snack and some milk (non boob) and I pop him in his buggy, we go for a walk and he is usually asleep by the time we are at the end of the road!

On other days, when we have a class or group in the morning, he will fall asleep on the walk home. I am finding that somewhere between 11.30 and 11.45 is the prime time to get him to nap. And more often than not, he has a good two hour nap. Something that I thought would never happen!

So what’s the problem? Well, in all honestly I don’t think there is one, but it’s the fact that he is napping in his buggy and not his cot.

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When I took him for his one year check a couple of months ago, the health visitor commented that I really needed to be getting him to sleep in his cot in the day. Of course I nodded along as if I was agreeing with her to make her happy, but ultimately, I disagree.

Ok, yes, of course it would be wonderful if I could lay him down and have him fall asleep all by himself. But it simply doesn’t happen. The only way he knows how to go to sleep is by being breastfed and with me now cutting that out during the day, it makes it pretty impossible to get him to sleep in his cot in the daytime. Also, I have actually tried. There have been a couple of instances where we have been at home, he has been exceptionally tired and I have thought you know what? I’ll give him some boob and see if I can get him in his cot. And it fails.

The other day I gave it a try, he fell asleep and as soon as I tried to put him down, he cried. So I put him back on the boob, got him back to sleep, tried to put him down again and he woke again. I simply ended up on the bed with him sleepily nibbling on my nipples. He stayed there for about an hour and a half and whilst the cuddles were lovely, it was going against everything I am trying to do with the whole daytime breastfeeding!

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And so I have every intention of continuing to let him sleep in the buggy. I don’t care what the health visitors say. I don’t care what anyone else says. Right now, our routine is working a treat. A morning of play, out for a quick walk to get him to sleep, a nap for a couple of hours while I have lunch and do some work, followed by some lunch for him, another small play and then the school run.

It is working for him and it is working for me and that’s all that matters right now!

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26 Comments

  1. November 10, 2017 / 5:59 pm

    Right or wrong I also used to let my children sleep in a buggy, I used to keep a close eye on them to ensure that they didn’t over heat

  2. November 11, 2017 / 9:58 pm

    My girls used to sleep in their buggies too…
    Health visitors seem to have a new rule book now a days and it’s just silly. You know what works for you and your child they don’t x

  3. November 14, 2017 / 7:12 am

    I guess so one as it woks for the both of you it doesnโ€™t really matter, and lets be honest we all need our sleep #twinklytuesday

  4. November 14, 2017 / 7:26 am

    You do what works for you. You’ve got a happy, healthy kid. Plus it means you’re getting a walk everyday and some fresh air. Winner. L went through a stage of having 2 2hr naps a day in his cot, which was lovely, I got so much done in the house but could I actually leave the house?! Nope. Cos he also needed feeding and what not. It drove me more than a little crazy. So I would have loved pushchair naps #twinklytuesday

  5. November 14, 2017 / 7:36 am

    I agree you’ve got to do what works. I have twins…brought up the same…one will nap best in his cot the other I tried for ages for cot naps and he just took ages to settle with lots of crying and didn’t even sleep long then he was out of sync with his brother . Now I am just resigned to pram naps…I just rock him in the hallway and he’s asleep for 2 hours and his brothers up in the cot. If he wakes I can just rock him bk to sleep and it doesn’t hurt my bad neck and it works! As long as they’re not overheating and youre checking on them I think it’s fine.

  6. November 14, 2017 / 7:39 am

    oh he is so divine! As mums we know them best and we have to also save our own sanity in order to be the best mum we can, plus it looks like a good buggy, he looks well supported and comfy xx #TwinklyTuesday

  7. November 14, 2017 / 7:55 am

    I’m sure mine slept in the buggy. I used it as my exercise time to go for a walk while they napped or to collect older ones from school, I wouldn’t worry at all, do what works for you. #twinklytuesday

  8. November 14, 2017 / 7:58 am

    Do what works for you, I say. I’m pretty sure my youngest spent a lot of time sleeping in her buggy #TwinklyTuesday x

  9. November 14, 2017 / 8:33 am

    Every child is different! What works for you works for you! #TwinklyTuesday

  10. November 14, 2017 / 9:17 am

    Mine always had a nap in their pram/buggy. As Mrs T above says, whatever works for you! #TwinklyTuesday

  11. November 14, 2017 / 9:38 am

    As long as the kiddo has a good long nap and wakes up fresh, I feel you should not worry at all! What works for one baby can not be generalized for others. Its imply the tailor made solution that the mother has to find out. And you have got it bang on!

    -Anagha recently posted Merci Ceher Maison

  12. November 14, 2017 / 9:53 am

    As long as they are getting some sleep I don’t see a problem. My mum reminded me that I use to sleep in the buggy and she would leave me out in the garden because the fresh air helped me. ๐Ÿ™‚ #twinklytuesday

  13. November 14, 2017 / 10:43 am

    both mine wont go down in a cot/bed. if they fell asleep in the car or pram we were happy enough. sleep there is better than no sleep

  14. November 14, 2017 / 11:34 am

    I say as long as it’s working for you hun then it’s great!
    #TwinklyTuesdays

  15. November 14, 2017 / 11:40 am

    It about what works for you and if the only way is in the pram then so be it, sod the health visitor!! Thanks for hosting #twinklytuesday

  16. November 14, 2017 / 12:03 pm

    Whatever works for mummy and baby is what counts. At least he is getting the rest he needs regardless of where he’s sleeping. My little boy was never a great sleeper and I had to hold him the entire time and I’ll keep on doing that if that’s what he needs. I’m just waiting for the time when he no longer requires anymore naps. Thanks for hosting #TwinklyTuesday

  17. November 14, 2017 / 3:02 pm

    I think I’m going to echo what everyone else has said – it’s a matter of whatever works for you and your family as a whole. When I just had one child it was easy to work things round him. Now I have a second, the poor girl just gets ferried around where ever we go. As long as both you and your kids are happy and healthy how and where they sleep isn’t too important. If it’s having an impact on you or your kids then it does need addressing. #TwinklyTuesday

  18. November 14, 2017 / 3:56 pm

    I’m a firm believer in following your mother’s instinct, so I’m completely with you when it comes to napping wherever suits your baby ๐Ÿ™‚ #TwinklyTuesday

  19. November 14, 2017 / 9:22 pm

    I found it much easier for Clara to nap in the pram, that way at least she would sleep while I ran errands (or popped to Costa!) and I wouldn’t want to be tied down to having to stay in the house at the same time every day for nap time. My eldest used to sleep anywhere. Literally anywhere, she would just lie on the floor wherever we were and go to sleep when she got tired! #twinklytuesday

  20. November 14, 2017 / 10:12 pm

    There are a zillion experts out there wanting to tell us how to parent and yet most of us want to do our very best and good enough usually is just that.

  21. November 15, 2017 / 9:14 am

    I see absolutely nothing wrong with them napping in a pram – if that is the only way to get him to nap during the day then thumbs up. With my kids the pram and car seat was like a sleeping tablet – don’t know if it had anything to do with the motion of being driven around.#TwinklyTuesday

  22. November 15, 2017 / 10:27 am

    My son used to sleep in his bouncy chair, whatever gets you through the days is my motto ๐Ÿ˜‰ X #twinklytuesday

  23. November 15, 2017 / 10:31 am

    I think as long as they are actually sleeping should it really matter where? Su #TwinklyTuesday

  24. November 15, 2017 / 12:33 pm

    Firstly, he is just THE CUTEST!!! I have the opposite problem that my children have always refused to sleep anywhere other than a cot. It’s fine with Felix as he is ok if he doesn’t nap but with Poppy who turned into devil child if she didn’t nap, it was a total nightmare. I was tied to the house during nap times and became that awful “I can only see you outside of nap times” parent.
    Honestly, just go with whatever he is happy doing. He seems like he’s thriving so you’re obviously doing everything right and know your child. #twinklytuesday

  25. November 16, 2017 / 3:22 pm

    Sleep is better than no sleep and whatever works for him is best. I always used to nap in the car and my mummy found it easier x #TwinklyTuesdayx

  26. November 20, 2017 / 7:49 pm

    Exactly – if it works for him & it works for you then do it! Pick your battles I say! #twinklytuesday

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