Is she or isn’t she? My frustrations with the media!

Cheryl Cole/Fernadez-Versini/Tweedy. 

She may be pregnant. She may not. 

She may be so happily comfortable in her relationship that she's had numerous take-aways/meal's out/scrummy cakes, that for the first time in her career, she has some curves. 

We don't know why she has a newly rounded tummy but the wonderful media are intent on speculating that she does indeed have a bun in the oven (of the non scrummy cake variety). Everywhere you look there are new photos of her stomach along with interviews with close friends who are trying to avoid giving anything away on the red carpet. And you know what? It really bugs me. It has always bugged me.

I know that celebrities like Cheryl have lived their lives in the media, played the media and used it to heighten their profile, but when it comes to such a personal matter like having a baby, really – they just need to back off.  

Discovering that you are pregnant is one of the biggest things to happen to a woman. Whether trying for a baby or not trying, seeing those lines or words are the biggest shock. We were trying for both of our boys but still seeing that positive pregnancy test felt kind of unbelievable. Most women keep it secret for the first three months – some keep it a complete secret and some let their nearest and dearest know, but otherwise most spend a good 9-10 weeks hiding the morning sickness, the tiredness and the swollen stomach from the world. Finally the date of the scan comes round and you are sick with nerves and clock watching. Then you see your tiny little baby squiggling around on the screen and the relief is immense.

And then?

Then the excitement that you can finally tell the world kicks in and you get on with whatever way you have planned to announce. Getting it out there is the best feeling and just like the actual birth, it should never ever be announced by someone else. 

Why the media feel that they have the right to tell the world that celebrities may be pregnant, I don't know. For years Jennifer Aniston has been batting away the pregnancy rumours. She has never hidden the fact that she would love children but you know what? Maybe she can't. Maybe she has spent years struggling with fertility issues and seeing the constant reports of her being pregnant is seriously painful to her. Maybe it just hasn't been her time. To be honest, it is none of our ruddy business. 

Just like Cheryl's or any other possible celebrity pregnancy is none of our business. 

So come on media. I know you have to get your sales. I know you have to retain your readership. I know that you are only doing your job. But please, when it comes to such personal matters like the excitement of being able to announce a pregnancy, please can you just leave it to the individual to announce when they are ready? Because whilst you are writing that latest article about that slightly rounded tummy, Cheryl, Jennifer, or whoever else is under the media telescope, could be sat on their toilet crying over yet another negative pregnancy test. They could be going through the trauma of a miscarriage or awaiting results of fertility testing. Just think about that next time you write your tat.  

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  1. November 2, 2016 / 10:19 pm

    Oh I totally agree, it's just trash. I don't read any publications that write that kind of tripe, I have no interest in it and I feel terrible for the people they're writing about. 

    Nat.x

    • November 6, 2016 / 10:26 am

      It just annoys me so much. It’s so personal. I’d have been devastated if someone had announced my pregnancy before me x

  2. Helen
    November 8, 2016 / 8:47 am

    So true – most parents to be will ask their loved ones not to put anything on social media etc uuntil they've had a chance to announce it themselves. However some poor celebrities are told they're pregnant constantly and they media don't have an issue with announcing it for them. It must be so irritating for them! #TwinklyTuesday

     

    Helen x

     

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    • November 8, 2016 / 10:13 am

      It would really pee me off! I just think it is such a personal thing and one that has so many risks as well. If someone doesn’t want to announce it then it’s their decision! x

  3. November 8, 2016 / 8:48 am

    I avoid all celeb talk magazines as the stories are just rubbish. If Cheryl is pregnant then it is up to her when and how she announces it. Unfortunately though if you're in the public eye then your life becomes eeryones business.xx #twinklytuesday 

    • November 8, 2016 / 10:17 am

      I know – I would just hate to be in the public eye. It just annoys me when something is such a personal matter! x

  4. November 8, 2016 / 8:56 am

    So well put, it must be so hard for these stars to keep anything private. Just as well I don't have a tallent as I couln't cope with the media attention they have! #TwinklyTuesday

  5. November 8, 2016 / 9:20 am

    I don't read this stuff. I can't even see why it sells. There are more important issues to discuss in the world. But I imagine that some people buy it although i don't know why. I do agree though, this is a very personal topic. #twinklytuesday

    • November 8, 2016 / 10:20 am

      It is. I don’t understand the interest either – I just think that no matter how famous someone is, some things should just remain private x

  6. November 8, 2016 / 9:25 am

    I am so with you. It's so sad they way trash mags treat celebs sometimes. #TwinklyTuesday

    • November 8, 2016 / 10:22 am

      Yep! I get that most of it is part of what they sign up for when they become famous but there are just some things that should remain the matter of the individual until they are ready for others to know! x

  7. November 8, 2016 / 9:41 am

    I couldn't agree more. I think it's awful- especially when they dress it up as being excited for the woman. They aren't, they are only excited about the prospect of more sales. So horrible for the lady involved. x #TwinklyTuesday

    • November 8, 2016 / 10:23 am

      Definitely. It’s all about the sales. Such personal matters should be for the individual until she is ready to announce x

  8. November 8, 2016 / 9:45 am

    Oh I love this and very much agree! It's such a big thing for anyone celeb or not. I think it's easy to forget that these people are really just the same as us; same worries! #twinklytuesday xx

    • November 8, 2016 / 10:24 am

      Thank you! It’s such a worrying time for anyone and yes you are right, at the end of the day they are just people! x

  9. November 8, 2016 / 9:52 am

    Totally agree. I steer clear of all gossip/celebrity magazines as I just don't care. I don't mean that nastily, but I don't know them, so I don't care if their pregnant or engage [agan] etc. Much rather see this sort of news from my own friends and family than random people I've never met before. Great post! #TwinklyTuesday

    • November 8, 2016 / 10:25 am

      Haha that’s so true! It’s like yep, nice news but I’ll never meet the baby!! x

  10. November 8, 2016 / 10:31 am

    The media is beyond intrusive with celebrities and their personal lives. #TwinklyTuesday

    • November 8, 2016 / 10:44 am

      Absolutely. I just think there are times when they really need to consider the person x

  11. November 8, 2016 / 10:33 am

    Well said! It is such a private time in someones life and I don't think it's right to openly speculate like that #twinklytuesday

    • November 8, 2016 / 10:45 am

      Definitely. Write about it as much as they want once it’s public knowledge but otherwise leave them to make the announcement (if there is one to make) in their own time! x

  12. November 8, 2016 / 10:52 am

    I agree. Some women don't want anyone to know about their pregnancy untill there at least a few weeks gone. But then everyone was saying how thin she was and then she puts on a little bit of weight and everyone is saying she is pregnant. Now what if she isn't prenent, how is that going to make her feel. No wonder there are so many people with eatting dissorders, as as soon as someone gains or loses just a pound or two is all over the front of magazines! #TwinklyTuesday

    • November 8, 2016 / 1:11 pm

      Absolutely. I saw her on the one show last week and she look blooming amazing. Even if she isn’t pregnant, her new curvier figure is just beautiful! x

  13. November 8, 2016 / 11:15 am

    Its so mean isn't it.  It's an extremely vulnerable time for women, wouldn't it be better if they just backed off.  #twinklytuesday

    • November 8, 2016 / 1:12 pm

      Yep! I wonder how many of the writers are women too. Always worse when it’s one of your own! x

  14. November 8, 2016 / 11:22 am

    I've always thought one of the hardest things about being a clebrity has got to be the constant speculation and intrusion of the media.  I kept it a secret for the first three months with all 3 of my boys and would have been devistated if someone had announced it before me. 

    • November 8, 2016 / 1:14 pm

      Absolutely. It’s just such a special time, it must be so annoying to have it splashed everywhere! x

  15. November 8, 2016 / 11:45 am

    A really good point! I would hate for someone to be constantly speculating about whether I was pregnant or not – especially if I was going through a miscarriage! I think that the media should find something else to talk about – it's a private moment and they should leave it private! #TwinklyTuesday

    • November 8, 2016 / 1:15 pm

      Absolutely. It just feels like too personal a thing for people to be talking about x

  16. November 8, 2016 / 12:06 pm

    I completely agree! I am so bored of hearing about celebrities that may or may not be pregnant, but at the same time it really is none of our business! We chose not to announce my pregnancy with our youngest for our own personal reasons (one being that with him being a boy my anxiety about another stillbirth were off the scale) and luckily for me, I don't get a bump so I could hide it, but nobody knows the reasons why others choose not to announce their pregnancies, even when to the rest of the world their bumps are being highlighted for all to see. #TwinklyTuesday

    • November 8, 2016 / 1:16 pm

      Definitely. It is such a stressful time even if everything is going perfectly well. I just feel like it’s their news, no one else’s x

  17. November 8, 2016 / 12:15 pm

    I completely agree Lisa and I always hate it. It's none of our business unless the celeb themselves chooses to share it and like you say who knows if they have been trying to get pregnant for years and can't? How awful. I also see it as another way of fat shaming because of course what it her reason could there be for a rounded tum? Not oregano oh my you have let yourself go. It's disgusting honestly! Xx

    • November 8, 2016 / 1:18 pm

      Definitely. If she isn’t pregnant and she finally just looks healthy to us, she could so easily end up back to her tiny self from reading it all! x

  18. November 8, 2016 / 12:37 pm

    Very well said, we have no ides what is going on and the media definitely shouldn't speculate.

    #TwinklyTuesday

  19. November 8, 2016 / 1:07 pm

    It is so mean! If she is pregnant, who's business is it?! Let alone before she's even announced it. If she's not..that's got to feel awful too. I would HATE it if someone announced the birth of my baby, or my pregnancy before me!!

    • November 8, 2016 / 1:20 pm

      I know! And then imagine everyone things you’re pregnant when actually you’ve just eaten a bit much! She looks so healthy no matter what is causing it x

  20. November 8, 2016 / 2:39 pm

    So frustrating – I don't get the hype around it. I know her job is to be in the public eye, but still! #twinklytuesday

    • November 8, 2016 / 7:35 pm

      Exactly! Just because she is the public eye doesn’t mean she has to tell the world the minute she is pregnant…if she is at all! x

  21. November 8, 2016 / 2:40 pm

    It drives me crazy! god forbid a woman not have to ware spanks or suck in all day (cause let's face it ladies, we aren't supposed to have a completley flat tummy, there is uterus inthere taking up space!) without someone asking if she is expecting….ugh #TwinklyTuesday

  22. November 8, 2016 / 3:28 pm

    I'm with you on this. I don't read those articles because they are so intrusive, usually completely fabricated, often  derogatory and most importantly they just aren't news. #twinklytuesday

  23. November 8, 2016 / 4:34 pm

    Completely agree! I think it's forgotten these women are just like us when they are so big in the celeb world. We never really know what's going on! The media needs to back off!! Thanks for hosting xx

  24. November 8, 2016 / 4:46 pm

    Oh my goodness – totally agree with this! Keep an eye out for my blog on Friday where I'm talking about something very similar!!! We must be on the same page this week 🙂

    Great post and well written! #twinklytuesday

  25. November 8, 2016 / 5:34 pm

    An excellent point.  I have been beyond frustrated with the media for CREATING stories as much (or more) than they are reporting stories.  And we should never forget that the people that stories are being created about are *human.*  Just because they made a choice to live in the public eye does not mean that they should be abused.  #TwinklyTuesday

  26. November 8, 2016 / 7:49 pm

    We hate the relentless hounding of celebrities too! Especially over something that is so sensitive as pregnancy. Must be heartbreaking for celebs that can't or have had miscarriages 🙁 #TwinklyTuesday

  27. November 9, 2016 / 7:14 am

    So well said. I think the media forget the person behind the celebrity a lot of the time. It should be a woman's right to announce a pregnancy when she wants to do so – not the media's job to do it for her and constantly speculate. #twinklytuesday

  28. November 9, 2016 / 8:54 am

    I agree – who cares?! #twinklytuesday

  29. November 9, 2016 / 9:21 am

    The thing is her tummy doesn't even look 'round' to me!! Perhaps I need my eyes testing!! #twinklytuesday

  30. November 9, 2016 / 2:21 pm

    I do agree, but if you want to live as a celebrity you have to accept you get little privacy and everyone wants to know your business. It comes with the fame and money! I don't think its right,but I also don't really care too much about celeb gossip anyway!!

  31. November 10, 2016 / 9:53 pm

    I don't follow celebrities so haven't noticed. #twinklytuesday

  32. November 13, 2016 / 7:50 pm

    I think it's terrible!  And we women are just as bad as the media sometimes!  I had a friend who didn't have a glass of wine with dinner and for the rest of the week we were speculating whether she was or wasn't mit bebe. Turns out she was but it could quite easily have been any number of other reasons.  Great post to highlight how damaging idle gossip can be #TwinklyTuesday

  33. November 13, 2016 / 11:55 pm

    I hate reading any type of publications for things such as this. It's absolutely ridiculous. I don't really keep up with celebrity gossip but seeing stuff like this is annoying. #TwinklyTuesday

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