Every week I feature an interview with a blogger, so that whether you know of them or not, you can get to know them a little better! This week we meet the lovely Emmy from Misadventurous Mummy. Thanks so much for taking part Emmy!
Tell me a little bit about yourself and your family
My name is Emmy, and I’m 30 years old. I live in Preston, in the north-west of England with my husband Myke, son Robin, mum Chris, and pug Nickie Fury. We lost my dad suddenly back in March to an illness called Cholangitis caused by a gallstone we didn’t know he had. My husband was diagnosed with gallstones back on Aug 16 and had an operation which nearly killed him due to a misdiagnosis. He is still having operations to fix him today and we have been told it could be up to a year before he’s anything resembling normal. A side effect of all this is Cholangitis with my husband being hospitalised 4 times in 7 months with it. I’m sure I don’t have to explain the emotions that this can cause.
Our son Robin is 21 months old and is absolutely amazing but very intense on top of everything else. Myke and I are inseparable as a couple, so spending as much time apart as we have had to this year has been very hard, but we will get through it, and I look forward to having my husband back.
We met at a bowling alley 14 years ago and I fell madly in love with him from the moment I saw him. He was way too cool for that, although he does claim to have definitely felt that something extra. We dated for a couple of months but circumstances (and a toxic ex-friend) pulled us apart. We remained very close friends for a few years before we decided that we wanted to be together. We got married in a lovely ceremony 5 years ago that was all about us as people rather than expectations and traditions. I had a traditional ball-gown style dress, that I wore with Skechers trainers because I wanted to be comfortable. Our whole day cost around £3000. We honeymooned in Orlando and returned again 2 years later. One year after that we needed a Disney fix and holidayed in Paris. I came back with a little extra and 9 months later Robin was born!
What do you like doing to be you, when you are not parenting, working (if you do), or blogging?
Visiting Disney would always win hands-down any day. However, on the more practical front, I am very into video games, which I almost never get to do anymore. However, I love to try new things and have a pretty adventurous heart so I can be pretty easily satisfied.
What is your biggest achievement to date?
Not going completely crazy this last year. I know that sounds like a cop-out answer but I still don’t know how I coped, and with at least a year to go, it’s hard to keep going. Most days I just want to cry and hide and not deal with it, but so far I’ve (almost always) managed to do what I need to, and I am pretty proud of that.
From your own experiences, what do you find the hardest part of parenting and what is the easiest/most rewarding part?
The responsibility. That is without a doubt the hardest part. Most of it comes naturally to me, but the knowledge that I am tied to him and I can’t just drop everything and run up to the hospital or just get a single full nights sleep is so, so hard. He was a very easy baby but became difficult around 11 months. I really struggled then, but he is totally worth it. I know that he isn’t having a tantrum to upset me, it’s because he’s struggling with something. Keeping that knowledge in mind makes it a lot easier to relate to him.
The most rewarding is watching him learn and grow every day. He’s a very sweet and funny boy (also cheeky) so there’s always lots of cuddles and giggles to be had.
Parenting in itself is no mean feat; how do you juggle everything you need to in order to get everything done on a daily basis?
I don’t. I struggled juggling every ball before this last year, but now it is impossible. It really required me to look at what is completely essential, not just in terms my time but also in terms of money, as we always lived paycheck to paycheck. This year saw my husband go onto SSP, then ESA to now almost nothing. I was made redundant just after getting pregnant so I don’t work, and couldn’t do even if I wanted to.
Myke couldn’t take care of Robin, and if I had to pay for childcare, I wouldn’t have any money left. So things have really taken a hit this year, the housework has pretty much just not been done, but as long as Myke and Robin are healthy as can be, I can cope with a mountain of laundry.
Why did you decide to start blogging?
I used to write an online diary back when I was at high school. I made some amazing friends and I loved the fact that writing was therapeutic and also documented my life. When the site went down, I transferred onto another site along with most of the community, but I never had that same drive to write.
Along the way I almost always kept journals and other blogs before deciding to commit to Misadventurous Mummy. It was important to me to document our life. I’ve also always wanted to work for myself, so although I haven’t monetised my blog yet, it is something I hope to do in the future.
Tell me a bit about your blog?
Misadventurous Mummy had had a few incarnations before starting on its current path. It’s very much a lifestyle blog, with posts about a range of topics. However, in light of the last year, I have decided to start living my life to the full as life is far too short to be anything but happy. So now it has begun to help me figure out what I really want, and hopefully, it will help others too.
What do you want your blog to achieve and where do you hope to see it go as it grows?
Honestly, I write for me, and that’s what I want to maintain. I do hope that one day it could provide an income for me, and allow me to really make a difference to other people’s lives.
What advice would you give someone who is thinking about starting a blog?
It is so hard! There is so much to understand, that it’s necessary to understand so much more than just how to write, if you want to be read. Good organisation is key, and is something you will learn as you go. Some of us are still learning!
If you could have dinner with three people (dead or alive), who would it be and why?
1) My dad wins hands down over anybody else. I miss him so much, every day, and there is very little I wouldn’t sacrifice to just talk to him once more, so to have dinner would be mind-blowing.
2) David Attenborough, the absolute treasure that he is would definitely deserve a seat.
The third seat is tough. My instinct would tell me to dine with Walt Disney, but they always say you shouldn’t meet your heroes, so that one does have the potential to seriously backfire. If I didn’t choose Walt, I’d probably opt for Robin Williams. That was one celebrity death that shook me, and I think the world is a little darker without him in it.
Tell me three random facts about you:
1) I used to be in a marching band playing the xylophone and drums
2) I used to line dance competitively
3) I love quizzes to the point that I am desperate to be on a gameshow!