Every week I feature an interview with a blogger, so that whether you know of them or not, you can get to know them a little better! This week we meet Fern from Mumconventional. Thanks so much for taking part Fern 🙂
Tell me a little bit about yourself and your family
I’m Fern, a 22 year old mother of two boys from the North-East of England. My eldest is 2, and my youngest is currently 3 months, so you can imagine what life is like at the moment! I live with my fiancé who I have now been with for nearly 6 years. As much as I want to kill him sometimes, he has been my rock throughout the whirlwind that is parenting and I honestly don’t know what I would do without him. We also have a cat that we accidentally acquired when I was pregnant with my first. Honestly, there is never a dull moment in our house.
What do you like doing to be you, when you are not parenting, working (if you do), or blogging?
I love singing. When I am getting ready I will put music on, in the bath, or even playing with the baby – I just sit and sing to him for hours. Mainly because he can’t complain he can’t hear the TV like my toddler does. I would have loved to sing professionally but, as bizarre as it sounds because I am only 22, I definitely feel like I have left it too late.
What is your biggest achievement to date?
Probably the most cliché answer of all – my kids. I don’t think anything can trump them both in terms of an achievement. I have done lots of little things that I am proud of, like teaching myself to play guitar, recovering from an eating disorder, successfully managing to get A levels even though I was going through a rough patch mentally, or even recently becoming self employed with my blog. I never thought I would achieve that. Overall though, it has to be my kids. Whenever my toddler learns a new skill or speaks to me in sentences with words I didn’t even know he knew, I just feel so immensely proud. God knows what I will be like when they have assembly’s at school!
From your own experiences, what do you find the hardest part of parenting and what is the easiest/most rewarding part?
I find being on my own with them both so difficult because I don’t know how to juggle everything. Obviously I am still new to being a parent of two so I am sure it will come eventually, but I hate being outnumbered and having to choose between them when they both need me.
It’s difficult to pinpoint the most rewarding part because there are lots. We have recently been travelling a lot around the area and taking them both to new places. I love the look on our toddler’s face when he sees or learns something new and I just love to be part of that experience. Making memories as a family is so important to me.
Parenting in itself is no mean feat; how do you juggle everything you need to in order to get everything done on a daily basis?
Honestly, it is a major struggle but I tend to split things up into parts. I will wait until the baby is asleep to start tidying up. I have now begun internet food shopping, which makes life so much easier. I usually wait until they’re both in bed before I start working on my blog, which means I almost never get a break, but I do think it’s worth it when the money comes in. I also don’t put so much pressure on myself to get things done these days, because there is a lot less time to do things than there used to be.
Why did you decide to start blogging?
The main reason I started a blog was to confront the stereotypes surrounding young parents. I was so sick of getting comments about wasting my life. Also, people were so unbelievably surprised that I breast fed and I used to find it insulting. Why would I not breast feed just because I am young? I felt like I had a duty to defend myself and other young parents out there, because we aren’t all on benefits and having kids through one night stands like people seem to believe. I think that we all struggle, no matter our age, and I really wanted to put that across as best I could.
Tell me a bit about your blog?
Currently, I consider myself a parenting and lifestyle blogger, although I would love to expand into beauty too. I talk about our adventures, and discuss a range of topics, such as breast feeding, weaning, what it’s like to have a cesarean… the lot. Last year I started a series about mental health issues and what it is like to suffer with crippling anxiety as a parent. I got such a great response that I started taking guest posts from other bloggers who wanted to share their stories too, and I made some amazing friends doing this.
What do you want your blog to achieve and where do you hope to see it go as it grows?
One of my main goals would be to create a support network for people who may be struggling with mental health issues. The response I used to receive when I was running my Mental Health Mondays series was bloody fantastic. I was getting so many messages telling me how much I had helped people finally make that trip to the doctors, or to enquire about counselling. People were even telling me that my blog made them feel like they weren’t alone. That is so important to me and I would absolutely love to take that further.
I’d love to be known worldwide but I think that may be a little too ambitious for now. Maybe one day.
What advice would you give someone who is thinking about starting a blog?
Don’t think too much about it and just do it. I used to worry so much about what people would think, but it has been the best thing I have ever done. There are lots of tutorials and some brilliant Facebook pages where you will find everything you need to know. It takes a long time to grow and you shouldn’t expect to earn money overnight, but if you really do want to write, you should not let anything hold you back.
If you could have dinner with three people (dead or alive), who would it be and why
1) Hugh Grant, because I adore him and every film he has ever been in. His speaking voice is amazing and I wish he narrated my life.
2) Second would be Phil Collins as I have been a fan of his music for the longest time and I think he is just the cutest little old man now. I would love to do a duet with him. Goals.
3) Last of all would probably be Jenna Marbles from YouTube. She has me howling almost every week at her videos and I think she would break the awkwardness brilliantly.
Tell me three random facts about you
1) I have two tattoos.
2) I have a birth mark on my left hand, so my little finger is completely pink.
3) I am almost 5 ft 11.