I have been a working mum since 2013. I have worked part time, full time and as of now, I am working from home as a blogger. Some days being at full time work was extremely difficult while on others it was nice to be able to sit and have a hot cup of tea without having to wipe a nose or change a bum! I know there are a heck of a lot of working mums out there, some who love it, some who hate it and others who are somewhere in the middle. I thought it would be interesting to see exactly how others feel about being a working mum and maybe we can all learn a little something about dealing with that dreaded mummy guilt!
Today we meet the lovely Sara from Jodhpurs For Maisie talking all things working mummy!
Tell me a little bit about who is in your family
Me (48) my husband, Paul (50) and Maisie (8), oh and an old small terrier with no eyes, Tilly and two crazy ex battery chickens, Emerald and Sapphire.
What age were your children when you returned to work?
9 months – it was way too early.
Did you return to a job away from the home or within the home?
Away from home 5 days a week
Did you choose to return or did your circumstances force you back?
It wasn’t really a option as we needed the money and I did enjoy my job.
Did you return to work full or part time?
What childcare do you have in place and how did you go about choosing it?
Initially I found a nursery on the way to work. I visited lots but none felt right until I found Little Bears. It ticked all of the practical boxes but more importantly it had a lovely atmosphere. I still cried every day for two weeks but I knew that Maisie was OK.
What do you find the most difficult about being a working mum?
I feel as though I please no one, I am often not at home when I should be or vice versa with work. I hardly dare mention having time to myself as I feel too guilty!
How do you deal with the working mummy guilt?
I don’t really. I try to give Maisie as much time as I can but I do think that sometimes I give in too easily to prevent a row. I try to tell myself that I am picking my battles, but really I am just too exhausted to argue.
I also tend to spend money on treats – well, I spend all week away from her earning it, I feel she should get the benefit.
How did you feel when it was time to go back to work?
Awful, I felt homesick, I just wanted to go home.
Is your work/life balance what you want it to be or would you rather work less or more?
I have just made a major change and given up my career for a less stressful job which luckily pays the same and has better holidays. I no longer have to think about work at home which is a great relief. I am worried that I might get bored, but so far so good. I would love to be a stay at home mum collecting Maisie from school every day and having her friends over to tea, but realistically it just isn’t going to happen.
What advice would you give to a mummy heading back to work?
Don’t do it!!! No, only joking. Ask if you can work flexibly to fit in with school and build up a support network of friends who can help you out either on a regular basis or in an emergency. I couldn’t manage without my friend Nikki who is a full time blogger at Yorkshire Wonders – she is amazing.
Sara, thank you so much for your complete honesty in your struggles with being a working mum. It really can be one of the most emotionally draining things and I know how much I struggled when I was working full time. I hope that the new job is going well and that you have got a better work/life balance from it 🙂