I have been a working mum since 2013. I have worked part time, full time and as of now, I am working from home as a blogger. Some days being at full time work was extremely difficult while on others it was nice to be able to sit and have a hot cup of tea without having to wipe a nose or change a bum! I know there are a heck of a lot of working mums out there, some who love it, some who hate it and others who are somewhere in the middle. I thought it would be interesting to see exactly how others feel about being a working mum and maybe we can all learn a little something about dealing with that dreaded mummy guilt!
Today we meet the lovely Sam from Travelling With Our Kids talking all things working mummy!
Tell me a little bit about who is in your family.
We are a family of 4. I have 2 boys who are 6 and 2. We also have 2 dogs and 3 rabbits. Its a busy household that can get very loud!
What age were your children when you returned to work?
Both boys were about 8-10 days old. It was pretty much baby in one arm and laptop with the spare hand.
Did you return to a job away from the home or within the home?
I work from my parents house, so it's away from my home but still within a house. I also go into the office for a few hours a week to do any paperwork that needs doing.
Did you choose to return or did your circumstances force you back?
Working for my parents I knew I would have to return quickly. However, I didn't really want to go back so soon. My dad was struggling with the work load so I returned to help out and keep on top of the workload.
Did you return to work full or part time?
I returned full time – working 9 to 5 every day of the week. Then weekends off (although we still have to check emails during this time)
What childcare do you have in place and how did you go about choosing it?
I had both boys with me at all times until they were about 15 months old. With my oldest he went to a childminder for a few days a week until he started nursery. With my youngest he went into a private day care which he goes to 3 times a week and is still there now.
What do you find the most difficult about being a working mum?
Juggling working, housework, the pets and kids all at the same time
How do you deal with the working mummy guilt?
I don't! Think I will always feel guilty.
How did you feel when it was time to go back to work?
Exhausted and overwhelmed! I also had post natal depression with my eldest and when he was 12 weeks old my brother passed away. So I was a mess most of the time but struggled along to help my parents out. It certainly wasn't ideal and I got no help with my PND from the health visitors etc.
Is your work/life balance what you want it to be or would you rather work less or more?
I would rather work less as I find work so stressful, and I can't switch off when I want to. I'm hoping in a few years time that I can do less work as my husband and younger brother will be moving across to the business. (fingers crossed!!)
What advice would you give to a mummy heading back to work?
Make sure you have made up your mind when you are returning. Don't feel pressured and look into suitable childcare options as early as possible.
Sam, thank you so much for taking part. I did a total double take when I read how soon you went back to work and my heart ached for you. Heck, at 9 days postpartum I could only just walk let alone function at work. I cannot imagine how you have juggled working alongside them for that long but it sounds like things have eased a bit now they are both in childcare. I am so sorry to read about the struggles you had after your eldest was born and that you didn't get the support that you so needed. You must have had such a lot going on all at once. I hope that the move across to the business for your husband and brother is a success so you get some relief and can cut your hours down. It must be so hard when it's a family run business.