This is a collaborative post
Since we got engaged back in January, we have been discussing plans for the future wedding. In the beginning, it was all very relaxed. We weren’t in any immediate rush and we were open to anything. When we went to a wedding fayre at a nearby venue, not only did it help us to see where our priorities lied with things like cakes, entertainment and wedding accessories, it also helped us to see what kind of venue we were looking for.
The venue that the fayre was at, was what I initially thought was my dream venue – but quite simply, I knew we couldn’t afford it. Funnily enough, when we were wandering around, we were both left less than impressed and couldn’t in any way see us having our wedding there. It just wasn’t right for us at all.
We then went to see a local Masonic hall which was along the lines of reality for us. It was cheap to hire, a really nice size, and easily accessible. Immediately (and weirdly), it was better than the grand country estate that we had ruled out. The only thing we didn’t know about was the menus as they have been in the middle of getting new caterers, so haven’t had any available to send to us. And so we were waiting to see what they were like before making our decision.
Then one day, another venue popped up. I cannot even remember where. It might have been when I was doing a Google search or it might have been on one of those targeted Facebook ads. But it looked really nice – a golf club in the Hertfordshire countryside. Looking at it though, I really didn’t think it would be within our budget. I had a google and I managed to find a price list that told me that it was really reasonable. Assuming it was from years ago and that since then it would have shot up in price, I got in touch with them to ask for more information on their current prices. A day later, they sent me everything – all of the info about the venue, the menus and the prices. And not only were those prices really, really reasonable, but the menus were seriously impressive.
One of the big things for the other half is to supply people at our wedding with good food. He doesn’t want people going hungry and he doesn’t want the food to be rubbish. And so I knew that the reaction to these menus would be good when I sent them over to him – and it was! He was equally as impressed as I was.
It was time to book a viewing!
A few weeks ago, he had a day off work to go to Zach’s morning assembly and so we arranged for the viewing to be at 11.30. We went for some breakfast after the assembly and then we went home, popped Oscar in the car and drove the 20 or so minutes to the venue.
And it was wonderful. Perfect in fact. It has everything that we want and everything that we need. And it is so, so flexible which is amazing, as so many wedding venues are really vigorous with what they allow you to do (and dare you even try and move away from their really expensive packages!).
Afterwards, we were both gushing about it and we pretty much decided that this would be where we hold our wedding reception. And we were so excited. So then just came the matter of choosing a date and making sure our preferred registry office had the same date available. And they did.
And so now we have our wedding date provisionally booked. The registry office is all sorted, but because it’s over two years away (yes, we are getting married in 2020), we can’t give our formal notice until next year, but the time and date is all ours. And the reception venue is on hold for us, just waiting for me to fill in the booking form and pay the deposit.
I can’t actually believe it. After the trip to the wedding fayre, we pretty much ruled out going to visit any grand places because we just knew they would be way out of our price range. Technically if we saved enough for longer, we could get married somewhere grand, but when you already have a mortgage and two children, it’s easier to be sensible when spending money. But the fact that the registry office is a beautiful room in a beautiful building, and the reception venue is a 19th century manor house with views to die for, I feel like I have got my dream venues and I am so happy.
And so I have two years of planning. My sister bought me a gorgeous wedding planner as an engagement present and I can’t wait to start filling it in with all the details. We already know some of what we want, but it’s going to be a fun couple of years putting all our plans together – deciding on rings and catering, colours and dresses, and looking at prom hair styles or floaty curl types.
Remember that in a previous life (well, it feels that way now), I was an event manager, so organising a wedding is going to be right up my street!