I have been a working mum since 2013. I have worked part time, full time and as of now, I am working from home as a blogger. Some days being at full time work was extremely difficult while on others it was nice to be able to sit and have a hot cup of tea without having to wipe a nose or change a bum! I know there are a heck of a lot of working mums out there, some who love it, some who hate it and others who are somewhere in the middle. I thought it would be interesting to see exactly how others feel about being a working mum and maybe we can all learn a little something about dealing with that dreaded mummy guilt!
Today we meet the lovely Ruth from Craft With Cartwright talking all things working mummy!
Tell me a little bit about who is in your family
My family is made up of myself and Hubby. Plus our two boys, eldest is eight nearly nine and youngest is four.
What age were your children when you returned to work?
I went back to work the first time when my eldest was nine months old. I went back full time and hated it. When I had my youngest I went back briefly when he was 12 months old for four months, before being made redundant. I have only recently gone back to work now he’s started school.
Did you return to a job away from the home or within the home?
I first went back to teaching Food Technology in High school. This time round I’m juggling teaching part time and blogging. I’m hoping I can stick with this happy balance.
Did you choose to return or did your circumstances force you back?
I chosen to return to work. I love teaching but going back full time was too much for me and I missed my eldest. Now I’m happy that they are both in school and I can work part time.
Did you return to work full or part time?
It’s been a mix of both. Full time when my eldest was young and I regret that now. Part time now and I love being there for my kids more.
What childcare do you have in place and how did you go about choosing it?
My mum has helped me out immensely. I have also used a childminder who was recommended by a friend and the local childcare centre, which was more about locality than preference.
What do you find the most difficult about being a working mum?
Being busy all of the time! I have to make time to have a sit down and watch the telly with hubby. Otherwise I find I just keep on going with the housework, school work and my blog.
How do you deal with the working mummy guilt?
I think I have found a happy balance now. I work two and half days a week teaching and the other days I work at home blogging. Which means I can make most school plays and open days. I also get to do half the pick ups and drop offs. So I don’t feel I’m dumping them in childcare all the time. This is so much better than the way I felt when I worked full time.
How did you feel when it was time to go back to work?
I didn’t want to go, even though I loved my job. It was heart breaking to leave my boys with someone else. They both looked so little!
Is your work/life balance what you want it to be or would you rather work less or more?
It’s going pretty well at the moment. It would be great to earn more money and hopefully the blogging will help with that. But money isn’t everything and we learnt to survive on one income for the past two and half years. I’d rather be there for my boys.
What advice would you give to a mummy heading back to work?
Don’t beat yourself up about it. You have to do what’s best for you and your family. There is no one size fits all scenario. It’s no good wasting all your energy on guilt as it helps no one.
Ruth, thanks so much for taking part in this interview. It sounds like everything has fallen into place for you which is just fab. I know just how you feel about the having worked full time, it literally feels like you never your see your children and that even when you do, everything is usually a mad rush. Finding the balance, especially when you are unhappy, is so important so I am glad that you seem to have found yours. Good luck with making more money on the blog to make things a little easier too.